Happy Thanksgiving!
I've been cooking all morning so hopefully I can relax a bit when our guests arrive.
We went to the zoo last night and had a great time. Spencer was super excited to see the 'aminals' and even requested going to see specific ones (elephants). Rachel was up way past her bedtime, but still had a great time too.
Mike and I had a huge argument, but we are over it now and having a good day today. It was about him not appreciating me, or appreciating anything really, and that showing appreciation is more than just saying thanks. Even if you say thanks 100 times a day, it's meaningless if your actions don't back it up. Actions speaking louder than words and all that. He was being a real snit about going to the zoo because (surprise, surprise) he didn't want to go. He pretty clearly thinks that going along when he doesn't want to gives him the right to act like a jerk the whole time. Like we should all bow down to him for gracing us with his presence or some shit. I'd rather he'd just not come. It would be harder for me to wrangle both kids, but at least we'd be able to enjoy it, rather than listening to Mike huff and sigh the whole time. And refuse to smile or do anything with the kids besides correct them constantly. Then he comes up with that I'm here to help bullshit again - in a 'tell me what to do and I'll do it, but if you don't then I don't have to do anything' sort of way which is the opposite of helpful for me. Sort of like when I say that crackers (for instance) are in the cabinet in the kitchen and after then telling him exactly which cabinet, which shelf, and right side or left side because he can't find them, I still end up getting the damn crackers myself because they were 4 inches to the left of where I said. So after the agrevation of trying to remember there exact location, I still end up doing it myself - usually with a chorus of toddlers whining for crackers in the backgroud. Not really helpful at all. But I'm still supposed to be grateful that he 'tried' because he really didn't want to (cue violins). I didn't ask you to come because I wanted a helper, I wanted to be together as a family. He said that I'm cold like Barb because I don't like listening to him whine all the time, which is true and I really don't feel bad about that. I don't like listening to him whine. If he is going to say things like "I just don't know how long I an go on like this", then there should logically be some sort of desire to change the 'this' part. But he doesn't have that. So either change things or stop whining, those are the two options. There are two children and two dogs in this house who are needy and whiny all day long, I don't have the patience for a 35 year old man to act that way too.
Got snubbed by someone who I thought was a friend last night. She didn't actually do anything wrong, though. We ran into her at the zoo and she said something about the email she sent inviting others to join them there, but then quickly back pedaled and said "I didn't send an email, what am I talking about." Traslation: she just didn't send the email to me. So between Mike and I arguing on the way home and that, I didn't really have a good night. But the kids had a great time seeing all the animals and lights at the zoo. That's what really matters.